Cutting Off Someone Close to You Sucks

…but sometimes it’s necessary

Dayon Cotton

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Photo by Paulo Silva on Unsplash

Recently, I had cut off someone extremely close to me.

Actually, it’s my ex.

We have a long, complicated history together that started as lovers and evolved to a weird on again, off again frenemy relationship.

We were best friends during the worst of times, and we were ruthless during the best of times.

Some common occurrences include blowing up each other’s phones, slights that were adding up way too fast, and becoming a loud presence within each other lives.

If you’re reading this thinking we weren’t very compatible, you’re right. The problem being we were too busy loving the idea of each other instead of who we really are. Boundaries were blurred and communication was inconsistent

Instead of accepting each other, flaws and all, we loved the fantasy of each other.

While I was busy enjoying fruitful, positive connections with everyone else in my life, she was the one anomaly of my network of people.

This went on for around two and a half years before I recently said enough was enough.

From there, I made the necessary but painfully difficult decision to let her go.

As I move into a new phase of my life, I felt the gravitational pull of my good common sense getting sucked back into her orbit.

So I hit the eject button and ended it. I wished her well, blocked her number, and decided to move on into this new phase of my life.

Seriously, when you have to cut off someone close to you, it always sucks.

Acceptance is Necessary

Logical thinking goes out the window when it comes to the people we love most.

No matter how much you want to, you can’t save someone from their self. This is one of the most difficult lessons of adult life and something I constantly have to remind myself.

If you follow me here on Medium, I preach often on the power of accepting on what you can and cannot control. It’s a classic concept that helps simplify life and focus on what’s important to you by not wasting energy on…

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Dayon Cotton

I write dope articles about social issues, life lessons, and living a better life, dayon1020@gmail.com, Follow My Twitter! @dayoncotton00, Active Duty US Navy