Where Is The Love?
With enforced long-distance relationships, I do acknowledge that there is a high-chance that it could fail. With two people being compelled to stay away from each other, it’s easier than ever to stray from each other. I won’t deny that it’s a possibility. That’s a hard pill to swallow for regular long-distance relationships, but made exponentially more difficult with the added layer of stress.
Likewise, being quarantined together is also more difficult than usual. Due to being glued at the hip thanks to local lockdowns, there is a whole new level of stress that a vast majority people simply aren’t accustomed to. Before this whole pandemic started, you at least had the option of using work as a way of decompressing from your relationships. Or maybe you would venture to your local bar and party your problems away. However, now you must face your significant other, and any lingering home issues that you may have been running away from, square in the eyes. Every. Single. Day.
So yeah, things are different now. We’re more stressed out than usual, we’re more paranoid than normal, and many people are desperately seeking an escape that, for now, doesn’t exist.
I get it. I really do. Divorces are going to rise, people may cheat to escape their commitments, and hearts are going to get broken.
The Other Love Language — Trust
However, can we please try to be more optimistic about our romantic prospects? Times may be hard, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t possible romantic options out there. There still people that want true love and serious commitments.
It’s honestly a bit depressing to witness how much we, as people and lovers, don’t trust each other.
Trust is the secret sauce that will make or break your relationships with the people in your life. Your relationship isn’t failing because of a pandemic — it was already falling apart long before we reached this point. The only difference is that now we have an easy excuse to explain away our failing relationships.
Oh look at all of the bad things happening during this time: record-breaking unemployment, an unbelievably contagious virus, mass uncertainty, and this list goes on. Despite all of these external events going on within the world, it’s not an excuse to suddenly stop showing up in your love life.
Is it more difficult to keep that flame of romance alive during a perilous time such as this? Absolutely.
On the flip side, it’s entirely possible that flame could become stronger than ever. Life-altering times will increase trust between people. You come out of these situations stronger than how you went into it.
But What About All Of The Single Ladies (And Men)?
There is someone for everyone.
For some it may be a blessing in disguise as it means less responsibility. It’s just you — and that gives you easy freedom and liberation. You have a wealth of free time to finally enjoy yourself in the comfort of your own house…or apartment rather.
On the flip side, it can be hard to be single during moments like this. What if you crave the tender touch of another? Or the passion and fun that comes with having someone around…that just gets you?
Then again, it’s just nice to have someone to split the bills with.
Stay open minded and be willing to give people a chance. Love isn’t something you plan for — it kinda just happens. Give yourself, and your partner, a chance to develop real trust in each other. I know, it’s easier said than done, but it can be done.
That’s the important part.
Give Yourself A Chance
For love to exist, you gotta believe that it can exist. You have to give it a real chance that there is legit possibility that maybe….just maybe…shit can work out this time.
At the very least, if it doesn’t workout, you tried. And that’s saying a lot right now.
Thanks for reading!
Dayon Cotton is a practicing stoic and is currently enjoying adventures in self-love and therapy.
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