Why You Need To Become Best Friends With Failure

You are going to fail. A lot. Get used to it.

You are going to fail

“You are going to die.”

This is not another meditation on Memento Mori and the meaning of death. It’s actually a meaningful lesson I learned from a video game.

In the Dark Souls gaming franchise, you are frequently reminded that death is going to happen. In fact, you will die at some point. It’s a franchise renowned for it’s brutal difficulty and

Quickly. Gloriously. Or just pathetic, in nature. But one way or another, the game will get the better of you. This game gives out “Game Over” screens like a barbershop giving out haircuts.

More than that, it’s a training course in making peace with failure. No matter how difficult the game becomes, it is always fair. The enemies give you enough time to react, you were just too slow. You could have avoided the pitfall, but you weren’t paying attention. You could have survived that brutal attack, but you didn’t manage your inventory correctly. The more you play the game, the more you realize that failure is inevitable. By design, it forces you accept a grand truth of life and failure.

With each new attempt, your success rate will increase.

Success is rarely achieved the first time, but created after many repetitions of effort and imperfection.

Failure Is Inevitable

The hardest part of being an adult is coping with failure and it’s resulting fallout.

From the time we are born, we are conditioned to constantly succeed.

When you take your first steps, you are praised.

When you earned good grades in school, your parents viewed you as successful.

Time and time again, through school, work, and our personal lives ,we’re reminded that we must always succeed. That we must never fail.

However, despite our best attempts, we will fail at some point.

As unfortunate as it can be, failure is a part of growth. Without it, we cannot reach the highest peaks of our lives without the illumination that we are not perfect. Imperfections and mistakes reveal areas of improvement, and with that reveal, comes greater success.

The reward of failure is self-improvement and it is something to rejoice.

Failure, whether we like it or not, is one of the greatest friends you can have. The moment you can accept failure, the doors to success unlock. Skill takes practice through careful trial and error. If you want to become better, you must realize that you’re not good enough. To realize that you’re not good enough, you must fail at some point.

Failure in society is often treated like this big, scary thing that we should all be afraid of. However, once you get comfortable with the thought of it, it becomes so much easier, and so much more rewarding in the end.

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” — Michael Jordan

Thanks for reading!

Dayon Cotton is Active Duty US Navy and Freelance Writer. I write about social issues, life lessons, and advice on how to live a better life.

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I write dope articles about social issues, life lessons, and living a better life, dayon1020@gmail.com, Follow My Twitter! @dayoncotton00, Active Duty US Navy

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